Warm cocoa by the fire, freshly wrapped presents, and time spent with family and friends. The holidays can be a magical time. But if you’re newly sober or navigating your recovery journey, this time of the year can feel like running an obstacle course. From spiked eggnog to stress-inducing relatives, the season of joy can quickly turn into a season of triggers. It’s not all bad though. With a little forethought and some preparation, you can enjoy the holidays without jeopardizing your recovery.
1. Have a Game Plan for Parties
Holiday parties and family get-togethers can be tricky. Alcohol is often as common as candy canes, and social pressures can run high. Before you head out, create a plan to protect your sobriety. Decide how long you’ll stay, who you’ll talk to, and how you’ll politely decline drinks, if need be. Some solid go-to’s are phrases like, “I’m good with water, thanks!” or “I’m the designated driver tonight.”
Bonus tip: Always have a non-alcoholic drink in hand to avoid questions. And if a party feels too risky? Give yourself permission to skip it. Your recovery always comes first.
2. Lean on Your Support System
The holidays are meant to be shared with others, and your recovery is no exception. Reach out to your support network, whether that be your sponsor, sober friends, family, or a recovery group. Talk through your concerns and plans for the holidays, and don’t hesitate to lean on them when you need encouragement. Many recovery programs host holiday meetings or events, which can be a great way to stay connected to your sober community. Remember, staying accountable to others is a powerful tool for staying sober.
3. Create New Traditions
It’s not uncommon for old holiday traditions to be associated with drinking or using. But who says you can’t create new ones? Grab some friends or family and go have a movie night, trying ice skating, baking cookies, or volunteering at a local shelter. New traditions can help shift your focus from what you’re avoiding to what you’re gaining - like joy, connection, and a clear-headed morning after.
4. Plan for Stressful Situations
There’s going to be stressful moments; there’s just no way around it. While family gatherings are heartwarming, they can also be demanding. Old dynamics, unresolved conflicts, and Aunt Judy’s probing questions about your love life can test anyone’s patience. Like holiday parties, go into these situations with a strategy. Practice setting boundaries, and don’t hesitate to excuse yourself if things get overwhelming. A quick walk outside or a call to your sponsor or friend can help you regroup. Most importantly, remind yourself why you’re staying sober. Your peace of mind is worth it.
5. Focus on Gratitude
The holidays are the perfect time to reflect on what recovery has brought into your life. Keep a gratitude journal and jot down three things you’re thankful for each day. Gratitude has a way of shifting your perspective and keeping you grounded, even during chaotic times. Plus, focusing on the positive can help you embrace the season in a way that aligns with your recovery journey.
You’ve Got This
The holidays in recovery might feel daunting, but they’re also an opportunity to celebrate how far you’ve come. If you’re new to recovery or considering treatment, know that support is available. If you’re ready to take the first step, reach out to Sunflower Recovery Center today. The best gift you can give yourself this season? A life free from the grip of addiction.