There is a common misconception that addiction treatment is a young person’s game. Ask someone who they imagine is the main demographic for rehab and more often than not, they’ll say someone in their twenties navigating substance abuse. But addiction doesn’t discriminate. It can impact anyone, at any age, at any time. This includes parents. If you’re watching your mom or dad struggle with substance abuse, it can feel scary wondering how to deal with it. The parent-child roles are reversed and there’s no manual for this sort of conversation. That’s where this blog comes in.
The Reality of Addiction in Older Adults
Substance abuse among older adults is more common than you might think. So common that the National Institute on Drug Abuse says alcohol abuse is the most prevalent form of addiction in adults over 50. And while alcohol addiction might be the most customary form of substance abuse, prescription pills and illicit drug use are growing concerns.
For older adults, substance abuse can stem from several unique stressors: retirement, health issues, financial insecurity, and grief. If your parents have recently retired, are struggling with their health or have had most of their friends pass away, they may be seeking comfort in unhealthy ways, even if they’ve never struggled with addiction before. What’s more, older adults are often less likely to recognize they have a problem or seek treatment on their own. That’s where you come in.
Understand Their Hesitations
Your parents' reluctance to willingly seek out addiction treatment may not be just a stubborn streak. They may feel ashamed of their behavior, worry about how others will perceive them, or have bought into the negative stigma around addiction and rehab.
Whether a generational thing or not, older adults often downplay their struggles with the belief that their substance use isn’t “that bad.” This is a symptom of denial. Admitting they need help means stepping into the unknown, which can be scary, leading to fear of change.
They may also have practice concerns around the cost of treatment, time away from the family, or who will take care of things while they are away. Understanding their reasons puts you in a position of empathy rather than frustration.
Pick the Right Moment
When it comes to sensitive conversations around substance abuse, timing is everything. Wait for a calm moment when your parents aren't under the influence, and you’re both in a space to have an open and honest discussion. Avoid springing it on them during an argument or high-stress situation. Frame the conversation around love and concern by using "I" statements. This approach feels less accusatory and more supportive, creating an environment where your parents may be more open to listening.
Be Prepared with Information
Your parents will probably have questions or objections, so it’s helpful to come prepared with answers. Share evidence that professional help can lead to lasting recovery. Show them that treatment works. Provide details about options that fit their needs. Additionally, research insurance coverage or financial assistance options to ease any concerns about costs.
Highlight the Benefits of Treatment
Your parents may need proof how treatment can improve their life. Emphasize the benefits of recovery, such as better physical health. Substance abuse takes a toll on the body, and treatment can help them heal and regain energy. Recovery often strengthens family bonds, renewing relationships that may have been strained. Learning healthier coping skills during treatment enhances emotional well-being, improving their overall happiness and resilience.
Offer Your Support
Making the decision to seek help can feel isolating, so let your parents know they’re not alone. Offer your support by attending their initial admissions meeting with them or helping with transportation or paperwork. Most importantly, be their emotional support throughout the process. You may find your relationship starting to heal even before they step foot into treatment.
Get Help Today
It’s never too late to get sober and find recovery. Helping your parents find addiction treatment can be one of the most loving things you can do. If you’re ready to get started, reach out to Sunflower Recovery Center today. We’re here to support both of you every step of the way.